communication

It’s a great thing…when it’s done right.   I’m thinking, though, that last weekend was NOT a good weekend for communication done right. 

Jim and I went for a (very) short drive.  We’ve both had things on our minds and needed a little time to work through some questions that have come up.  Nothing hugely serious, but uninterrupted time to talk is hard to come by at our house.   Heck, if we can finish 2 sentences without being interrupted, it’s a good conversation!  :)   And since one of the cars needed to be driven between transmission fluid changes, it seemed like a good time.  We went for a twenty minute drive, stopped at the hardware store and the auto parts store, and headed home.  Afterwards, I felt better and we were on the same page on a big question. 

Or…maybe not.   Sigh.  Some things have happened this week that indicate my understanding of our conversations does NOT match his.  I don’t think we’re on the same page.  I could have sworn I heard the words “You are right.” and “I am not opposed to that.”   I know I asked clarifying questions to make sure I understood.  Apparently even through all of it, I misunderstood.  Or maybe he did.  I’m not sure.  All I know is that I feel like we’re not on the same page.  Again.  And it’s frustrating.

So, now I have to contemplate going back to try again.  Maybe, just maybe, if we have more time and fewer distractions…time to ask and answer the “What exactly do you mean when you say ______?”  then we’ll be on the same page. 

Next Sunday, we are going out.  On a REAL date for a fancy dinner.  And time to talk.  That’s a good thing.   Dinner will be done right, I know.  Hopefully  this time, the communication will be too.