REALLY good stuff. This blog post (The Truth About Adoption: One Year Later) describes well the phases of the post-adoption adjustments. Go read it. Now. I’ll wait. The rest of this won’t make sense if you don’t… Oh! While you’re there? Click on the “About” tab and learn more about Jen Hatmaker. It’s humorous, and you’ll be glad you did. :)
Thanks! Told you it was good stuff. :) In our case, the description is right on for one adoption, and skewed for the other. Years later, we are still mostly hanging out in Stage 4, with some days/weeks/months in Stage 3, and some particularly bad times that feel like Stage 2. Some of that is due to the seemingly endless list of complicated, inter-connected issues in his life. We all recognize that. After all, who wouldn’t have “Spaz Out” days if you couldn’t hear well or understand clearly what was going on around you??
But…the hope is there. The victory is there. Though the road is not easy for this one, GOD is the miracle worker. And He’s not through—with us or with our dear son—yet.
In Him, we can do this.
He is enough for us all.